Hunter Clarke-Fields once called herself a parenting yeller. In this LiveTalk she tells the story of sitting outside her daughter’s door, ashamed, listening to her cry, and what she had to understand before anything could change. When the stress response takes over, the calm words we already know are out of reach, so Hunter talks about practising small, physical ways to calm it.
Hunter walks through what happens in the second before we snap, why the best time to deal with a big outburst is long before it, when you look after your own needs, and her three Rs for the moment itself: recognize, remove yourself, use your resources, from longer exhales and shaking it out to the mantra “this is not an emergency”. You will also hear how to repair after you have yelled, why kids tune us out, how to hold a boundary with kindness when it is time to leave the playground, and why showing your child that your needs matter is good for them too. Her one practice to start with: the pause.
