It is the fourth time you have asked about the shoes.
You can hear your own voice getting louder.
If you have ever meant to stay calm and could not get there…
Maybe it is the mornings. The coat, the shoes, the door, and by the time you reach the car you are both upset and the day has barely started.
Maybe you say it kindly twice, and the third time it comes out sharp, and you can hear the difference before you have finished the sentence.
Maybe you know the words. You have read the books. And in the actual moment not one of them comes.
Maybe you were fine all day and it was the yoghurt on the floor that finished you.
Maybe it catches up with you after bedtime, when the house is finally quiet and you go back over the whole evening.
You already know you do not want to yell.
It’s that the wanting was never the hard part. This is a skill, and skills can be learned.
Now imagine getting to bedtime with nothing you want to take back.
Hunter Clarke-Fields used to call herself a parenting yeller. That is where Raising Good Humans came from, and the book has since sold more than 900,000 copies in 19 languages. She works with two things at once, and she calls them the two wings.
Mindfulness
It gives you back the half second before you react. The one you currently do not feel yourself having.
Skillful communication
It gives you something to say once you have that half second. Words that land, instead of words you regret.
One wing on its own does not fly. On October 15 Hunter brings both, live, and takes your questions.
A live session on responding instead of reacting
In this live session you will take away:
- How to respond rather than react. What is going on in your body in the second before it happens, and how to get a little space in there.
- How to yell less, starting tonight. Why deciding to stop has not worked so far, and what does move it.
- Talking so children listen. The ways we speak that quietly teach them to tune us out, and what to use instead.
- Discipline without shaming or guilt. How to hold a boundary, teach the skill and get cooperation, with no power struggle.
- Tantrums and big feelings. What to do while it is actually happening, and how to stay steady through it.
- We cannot give what we do not have. Why looking after yourself belongs on the practical list, and what self-compassion does for a parent.
- The two wings. Why mindfulness and skillful communication only really work together, and what a daily practice looks like with no spare twenty minutes.
You will leave with something to try that same evening, and live Q&A time to bring Hunter the moment you keep getting stuck in.
Meet Hunter Clarke-Fields
Hunter Clarke-Fields is the bestselling author of Raising Good Humans, with more than 900,000 copies sold and translations in 19 languages, and of Raising Good Humans Every Day. She hosts the Mindful Mama Podcast, which sits in the top 0.5% of podcasts globally, and she co-founded the Mindful Parenting Institute, where she trains parents and professionals in evidence-based mindful parenting.
She is a mindfulness meditation teacher with over 20 years of experience in meditation and yoga, the creator of the Mindful Parenting Course and the Mindful Parenting Teacher Certification Program, and a speaker whose work has been featured on CNBC, NBC and FOX. She is also the mother of two daughters, who, in her own words, inspire her to practice what she teaches every day.
