This is a video from “ASK ME ANYTHING” session with Charlotte Snyder, from June 23rd, 2024. Thank you to everyone who participated!
In this video
A 4-year-old who loses a party game starts Charlotte Snyder's June 2024 Q&A, along with board games for learning to win and lose. In this live session for parents and teachers, much of the time goes to a 5-year-old who is told to count to 10 and stop crying, and to what sits behind harsh reactions from the adults around him. The difference between a meltdown and a tantrum comes up too. Charlotte also brings in the Enneagram as a way to understand how we act under stress.
Chapters
- 0:00 A 4-year-old loses a party game: let the friend's gift be
- 8:20 Doing your best doesn't always win, and it's okay to opt out
- 14:56 Board games for winning and losing, and our own discomfort
- 21:09 A son too strict with his 5-year-old: talk later, not then
- 30:30 Feedback your grown son can hear: you're on his side
- 37:38 Apologizing to your grown child without making excuses
- 46:38 Counting to 10 to stop crying: it's not about the box
- 50:52 Meltdown or tantrum, and showing him how to offer a break
- 57:34 Harsh reactions come from fear: ask what he's afraid of
- 1:05:39 Limits matter, but nothing is learned when hungry and tired
- 1:11:46 Using the Enneagram to understand how we act under stress
- 1:21:42 Start with empathy, say I shouldn't have, and then stop
- 1:25:34 You can't make him change, but you can always have his back
